"HAPPINESS- IT'S A CHOICE" - BUT WHAT IF I SOMETIMES STRUGGLE CHOOSING IT
You may or may not remember, but I have written a blog post on choosing to be happy. Find it HERE, if not. At the time I felt like life gave me and my loved ones so many obstacles that we-or they have managed to come through, that I felt like nothing much could have taken me down. One of my closest friend had won the battle with Cancer, and seeing her go through all of this has really made me a stronger and more grateful person.
But you see the thing is with time is that it goes by. As they say “THE SHOW MUST GO ON'“. And oh boy, it does. When all this happened I found myself so grounded, so grateful for my health, for my friends and my family. And all of this kept me going without a blink during a breakup, career difficulties and any other life problems that other times would have put me down. I just didn’t care. My loved ones were alive.
As I said, times is tricky. It goes on, all the gratefulness fades. You suddenly find yourself less and less cheerful. Less happy. I recently found myself comparing my life to others my age in the blogging business. We have had so much growth within just a year, so many wonderful collaborations and surprises, I still found myself thinking it’s just not enough. I kept reminding myself of that blog post I wrote, the hard times we have faced, but it stopped working. It got to the point when I even thought of giving up. ME. The most competitive person you’ll find out there. I thought of starting over, even tho’ I knew I loved being a blogger, with all my heart. It was a full on pity party that still haunts me in weak moments. But I decided yet again to come over it. How do I do that? You might ask. Well, here are the ways I have been trying:
DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS
So cliche, but SO TRUE. The amount of times I read it or hear it and think: How can I not. It’s in my face. Funny thing is, I am way too hard on myself. I compare myself to bloggers out there that are way more experienced than me/us. But that’s the competitive Zsanett talking. Which is good. It drives and pushes us. At the same time it can easily put me down. So best I can do is to try and not compare my success and growth to others, as we are all different, as long as I have a clear strategy to grow in my own pace. As I said, cliche. But true.
HELP OTHERS IN NEED
Now, if nothing else, this will do the trick. Helping others in need. I’m talking real help here, such as charity or helping a person around you that really needs it. Of course giving some money to charity is great, but when you put the work in.. That is what makes the difference..Or as I said, helping someone around you. Really helping tho’, not just for show. Being there for them emotionally. It’s rare. You often ask people how they are out of politeness, and often you see they are not telling the truth when they say they are ok, but you decide not to get involved. GET INVOLVED. More often than not, when you feel you are over stepping boundaries by asking what’s wrong you are giving someone a helping hand. DO IT. You won’t only help someone that needed you, but you’ll feel better and forget about your own problems for a bit. Or even better, get a perspective that will help you realise just how lucky you are to have all you do.
READ BOOKS THAT WILL HELP YOU GROW
In whatever area you feel a bit lost in. Work, personal life, like friends, family.. or love life. There are plenty of great books out there that will give you the push you need. Don’t ever underestimate the power of a good “Self Help” book. Key word is GOOD tho’, so do your research before you start, you don’t want to waste precious time on garbage. To be completely honest, most of the books I read are for self growth. The effect they have on me is something unbelievable. There is so much to learn, and believe me, even if you feel your lowest, reading one of them good ones will put that fire back in your soul. I promise.